Take Charge of Your Life.

   Have you ever been put in a situation where some people want you to do one thing and other people want you doing something else?  Maybe you want to pursue your own passion instead of go to college and get a job, and your family wants you to stay and go to college because they view it as safe, but maybe you have a successful family member or friend who never went to college and learned how to do things their own way to do what they did to become successful.  You can do both but probably have trouble if you do them a the same time, after all doing both would please everybody.
What do you do?
   Theres two things you must know right away about taking charge of your life, 1: You have to make the choices for your life. 2: You can't please everyone, and if you try to you'll end up pleasing no one.  Understanding these 2 principles will make making decisions easier.  While at first it might sound simple it might not be easy, but implementing these into how you make decisions will make you succeed a lot more and make split second, smart decisions.  Using tool number 1 will give you the power to take more charge in your own life, if you let everyone tell you what to do your gonna be miserable and let them take advantage of you.  Tool number 2 can luckily be used in any area of life.  From fast food to corporations to politics, theres nothing that will everyone will agree on, we all have different beliefs.  having the knowledge of tool #2 can help greatly to decide how decisions should be for your life. 
   So lets implement these to the first paragraph, you have 99% of people around you telling you "go to college, and get a good safe job for 45 years."  (Keep in mind in the above story you think college and a good safe job isn't for you) You have everyone telling you to go, which is peer pressure for you, because you want to start a business or help people, but everyones telling you to do whats safe and with starting a business or helping thousands or millions of people is risky.  You have the chance to go bankrupt, have lawsuits filed against you, you have competition, you may have little money right now, and there are many who failed before you.  Everyone around you is telling you all this and you don't want to let them down right?  Thats your family and friends who only want you to live a safe life.  To put both of these rules together, its your life, not anyone else's, even if they want whats best in their eyes for you, if its no what you think your life is supposed to be about don't do it, you'll become sad in life just to make everyone else happy.  Although they may want you being safe, you have to pursue your dreams, even if it doesn't make everyone else happy, what matters is it makes you happy that you have the power to work everyday to pursue what you want to pursue.
  This was not a story on bashing going to college, I believe if thats your dream is to go to college and get a job you love, then do it!  If its your dream to do something that you love that doesn't involve college, then do it!  What I would hate to see is any of you reading this losing the dreams you have because you are doing what other people want you to do instead of living your life and following your passion.

   I hope you can take what I said here and use it in any area of your life, I would love to hear how these 2 tools helped you!

How Working Out Changed my Life.

Have you ever done something that just makes your life 100 times better once you've done it, or maybe doing this thing makes you love life?  For me the first thing I really implemented into my life was working out and fitness.  Like all things that better you this started off challenging, I would always think "oh my god what are people going to think? My muscles are small and everyone is going to notice how weak I am."  The truth I shortly learned is that people don't even pay attention to how much your lifting, they are too busy focussed on their own work outs.  I've seen people help others with their form if they see someone doing something the wrong way, and talk to others about their workouts, but what I've never seen is someone making fun of someone for being "weak", its from what I've seen the opposite of that, people lifting each other up, after all everyone is there to better their body and connect with like minded people.

So what got me to realize no one is going to judge how small my muscles are?  At first I still thought people would judge and laugh, but after a few times of going I noticed 2 things, no ones saying anything about it, and almost everyone at some point had small muscles.  First lets take how no ones saying "oh your muscles are so small" and stuff like that.  People know its better to start, and chances are if they see you a few times a week in the gym they know your working on getting stronger.  Number 2 about everyone having small muscles at some point, everyone knows someone can start at the bottom and get to the top by working hard and smart, so people will congratulate you on your gains.  The same thing applies for people who are over weight,  nobody is ever judging bad if they are always at the gym transforming their body.
How does changing one habit change them all?
Starting out anything you've never tried before is always hard, no one ever said it was easy.  What happens after day 1 in the gym?  You want to go back again the next day, even tho the workout was hard, theres still something that makes you wanna go back.  You probably thought you couldn't last that first day in the gym, but what happened?  You conquered what you thought was impossible, and know the next day is possible and will be easier until you build the habit of going consistently.
How did this change my life and how can it change yours?  before this year started I used to hate reading books, and when I say hate I mean HATE it!  You couldn't pay me $1,000,000 to read, but something changed.  I knew in order to grow stronger I needed to feed my brain with knowledge.  What happened about a week or 2 of forcing myself to read?  It simply became a habit and hobby of mine to pull out a book and start reading.  For me it is also relaxing, sitting there in peace, holding a book in my hand, almost a form of meditation for me.  If you look how different my life is from the way it was one year ago you would be amazed, I used to always have a gaming controller in my hands and could NOT put it down, but luckily I have replaced that with reading, and now believe it or not have to force myself to play games to relax, and have a hard time even playing a game for 10 minutes without turning it off.  I'd rather work on helping spread my message and developing myself and giving you my tips to develop your own life better than play games, but I do understand you need down time to chill out from working, and reading even tho I love doing it now its still something that can be overdone.  Even as I am writing this I turned on my PS4 to play Fallout 4, and turned the game on and just turned my computer back on to type some more.  Which sounds good but can be bad over time, if you are always working it can not only take away from relaxing time but could also take away fro time with loved ones and friends, which is what we don't want happening.  There must be a balance, without it you are either lazy in life or overprotective and get bored after a while and lose focus.
Above all developing these habits of working towards goals you might not even see the end of right now are important but keeping the balance between working and down time is just as important.

Wherever You are Start Now

Many people are discouraged to start because they feel like they are "far away" from where they want to be.  They make up excuses for why they shouldn't start now, or maybe people discourage them to start and say things like "oh you can never do that" or "thats impossible for someone in your situation".  Many of us may believe what they say and just give up or even worse, not even start at all.  What you need to realize is that its their limiting beliefs holding them back, not you.  If someone tells you something is impossible, what they are really saying is that they can't do it, and because of their belief they try to make you think you can't either, and try to make you stay at the same level as they are.
So who gets to decide who you become, you or the critics and doubters?  The choice is yours, you have to control and take charge of your own life and make what you want.  The time is now if you are 25, 50, 100 pound over weight, are broke, in debt just start now you can only get closer to your goals the more you push through the pain of starting.  No one ever said it would be easy, but I can tell you right now it's a lot harder to never start, to live a mediocre life, and to think on your death bed "what could I have been if I just started."  Everyone knows about that thing they wish they would've done 5 years ago but never did, and the best way to look at starting now is thinking of the difference of your life a year from now if you start and if you don't.  Its just like making the decision to go to bed early or stay up late, which totally affects how you are the next day by being tired and in less control of yourself and how you act.  Everyone knows what I'm talking about and always wishes they would've just went to sleep when they said, so its easy to think of starting like getting more sleep, even if right now you don't see the end in mind or how it would even be possible to achieve what you want in life because your goals are so big and you've never made that much money, or helped that many people, it doesn't mean that your goals aren't impossible and you shouldn't start, instead you should start now and build closer to what it is you want to achieve in life.

The impossible might just be possible.
Who ever would of thought we could ever have a car, fly planes, have boats and travel across the ocean, go to space, or have the ability to connect with someone on the other side of the world in seconds?  Nowadays these are common in everyones life, if you are reading this right now, you probably have a car and defiantly have the power of the internet to learn anything or meet anyone you want, and have probably been on a boat or plane.  You have the ability to take college classes online, to make a blog or youtube channel and spread whatever you want people to know about, just about anything you can think of you can do on the internet that 50-100 years ago would have seemed impossible.  The impossible became possible now its hard to live without something that a few years before I was born we never even had.
There's no better time than now.
So whats the thing you want to do that might seem impossible right now?  Get out there an start right now.  and share what it is your going to accomplish!

Surrounding Yourself With Things and People That Motivate You

Have you ever heard the saying "you are the average of the 5 people you hang around the most"?  The job you are in is very relatable to this saying, in you job you are surrounded by people mostly at the same level as you and chances are you'll stay around the same vibration as they are.  This can be both good and bad, if you are in a job with no progression and the people you work with are unmotivated the only thing you can learn fro this is how not to act and how to teach yourself to get somewhere better, but if you are with people who keep progressing in their life and motivate you to progress in your life chances are you're going to become stronger and stronger in your life.  Most of us including myself live in a world where we are scared to branch out to people who are where we wanna be.  These people we wish were all around us and sharing their wisdom with us in whatever they excelled in.  For me I would want to surround myself with people who have the knowledge and skills of fitness, positive impact, business and business structure, socializing, and meditation.  And if you are reading this my guess is you agree very similarly to the people you would want to be around the most.
How to motivate yourself.
We all find ourselves from one time or another unmotivated or losing motivation.  Often times losing motivation can start off slow but before you know it you're not working like you did before, so how do we gain motivation back?  I like to surround myself with pictures of things I want in life, or watch videos of the things I want, to motivate me.  It doesn't matter if you want something material or want to help people or both, you motivation is your motivation.  The easiest way to put pictures in front of you everyday is to make the picture or pictures your screensaver on your computers, phones, and tablets.  This way you are always reminded of what you are working for.

I have the example above of my screensaver on my computer (Brabus 6x6) one of 3 in the U.S. which reminds me why no matter how unmotivated I feel that if I keep at what I'm trying to accomplish it'll be worth it, which in turn keeps my motivation up in the long run.  Or maybe its something like a beautiful sight, and you love spending time outside or in nature, whatever your goals are surround yourself with them.